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Getting Married... Again
Jun. 12th, 2014 06:51 amToday is the day! We are in Minnesota and have our license ready to be signed and a small but significant family collection and it's not a blazing 110+ and actually it's quite humid and we have a time and a place and a judge for - well, getting married. For legals.
I'm not as excited as I had been - right now I'm just listening to my niece snore while staring out at the bright bright green of a midwest backyard. Everything feels very quiet and calm. I'm sure that calm will shatter soon. Actually, I am a wee bit nervous, but more because we have to actually transport ourselves to the courthouse and go through security and then stand there in front of a real actual judge and try not to snot all over ourselves.
It's been interesting seeing the different reactions from friends and family that we're getting married. Again. But this time for legals. And by different, I mean mostly all the same. Basically some form of "but you're already married!" and then "oh, yeah, paperwork, whatever." It's not unexpected, but it is reaffirming. I remember worrying a little bit when we got married without the legal bit that some people might question it or deem it less than married, but that worry has been completely unsubstantiated.
I feel like the only thing this will really change are those moments when I'm filling out paperwork and have to pause over the "single or married" question. Then I have to gauge whether or not the legality of our marriage is actually important to the situation and put one or the other. IE, filling out one's taxes = kind of important. But doctor paperwork, not so much. Or is it? I don't know. But at least now I won't have to decide anymore. I won't have that moment where I want to throttle the question writer and ask them WHAT THEY MEAN and WHY THEY CARE.
Green. It's so very green outside.
Other life things: we're on our third TTC attempt. Things seem to have gone as they should, so I'll know whether they actually worked in two weeks. I'm really really hopeful about this one, but also trying to convince myself that I can't jinx it, that in fact being positive might be even more helpful than not.
I still can't believe it's June.
I'm not as excited as I had been - right now I'm just listening to my niece snore while staring out at the bright bright green of a midwest backyard. Everything feels very quiet and calm. I'm sure that calm will shatter soon. Actually, I am a wee bit nervous, but more because we have to actually transport ourselves to the courthouse and go through security and then stand there in front of a real actual judge and try not to snot all over ourselves.
It's been interesting seeing the different reactions from friends and family that we're getting married. Again. But this time for legals. And by different, I mean mostly all the same. Basically some form of "but you're already married!" and then "oh, yeah, paperwork, whatever." It's not unexpected, but it is reaffirming. I remember worrying a little bit when we got married without the legal bit that some people might question it or deem it less than married, but that worry has been completely unsubstantiated.
I feel like the only thing this will really change are those moments when I'm filling out paperwork and have to pause over the "single or married" question. Then I have to gauge whether or not the legality of our marriage is actually important to the situation and put one or the other. IE, filling out one's taxes = kind of important. But doctor paperwork, not so much. Or is it? I don't know. But at least now I won't have to decide anymore. I won't have that moment where I want to throttle the question writer and ask them WHAT THEY MEAN and WHY THEY CARE.
Green. It's so very green outside.
Other life things: we're on our third TTC attempt. Things seem to have gone as they should, so I'll know whether they actually worked in two weeks. I'm really really hopeful about this one, but also trying to convince myself that I can't jinx it, that in fact being positive might be even more helpful than not.
I still can't believe it's June.
